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10 Challenges Facing Homeless Folks

There is a great article over at “HomelessTales.com” addressing the challenges and barriers that sometimes keep homeless folks from receiving the benefits of shelters. Having had the opportunity to twice visit PLOW (Portland Learning Outreach and Worship) with teams of youth where we could learn firsthand about the issues facing homeless folks I can start to appreciate what is being said in this article.

Clearly it is a tough arena to examine and improve.  With many of the organizations providing support on a voluntary basis from their own altruism, from their own budget, it just doesn’t make sense to insist on a certain “quality of service”.  Certainly the customers they serve don’t have circumstances that make serving them easy and the work can be thankless.

Since “something” is better than nothing (an incremental improvement but not a perfect situation).  Organizations meeting the social needs of the homeless receive thanks, and the clients are not generally in a position where they necessarily feel safe suggesting improvements…  With the needs of the homeless being so immediate, the idea of feeding someone is measurable and can be achieved.  With limited resources, the idea of feeding less people to make the meal experience more humanized seems foolish.

Given the creativity and dedication of the staff I’ve encountered serving the homeless, I can’t help but wonder if some kind of “Council of Best Practices” couldn’t be established to provide a code of excellence in addressing the needs of the homeless.  Like a Kaizen Practical framework for evaluating the quality of services provided to the homeless folks.  Not some “far removed” academic bureaucratic regulatory agency imposing unrealistic standards on overworked volunteers who are already stretched thin…  My 2 cents.  If that concept interests you, please comment below.

Anyways back to me recommending you read the other article…

So head on over and check out: “Ten Reasons Homeless People Choose Homelessness“.

Cheers!

Greg.



Carpooling Etiquette

Carpooling makes sense, you’ve been enjoying the benefits of carpooling for a while, you’ve adjusted to sharing commuting space and what seemed like a brand new adventure now seems normal.  Overall it has been good and you want your carpool to carry on, but there are these “minor annoyances” that are making carpooling a little bit tougher.  It started with the really strong perfume that made your car smell like… really strong perfume, then there was the coffee spill on your uphostery.  Life happens you know it could easily have been you, but then there were those surprises where some in your carpool just didn’t show up without letting anyone know.  You waited patiently at first, now its almost a running joke that the carpool does not leave at the time you all agreed to.  You have put up with these annoyances, ascribed them to personal style or just plain ignored them thinking that maybe the behaviour would improve.  It hasn’t…

Does this sound familiar?  I hope not, but for thousands of carpoolers, that is the reality of their carpool.  The carpool finds itself held hostage to bad behaviour, rudeness, inconsideration and the ambiguity of unclear expectations in order to retain the benefits of carpooling.  With the possible exception of a cement truck with no brakes, nothing will kill your carpool faster than carpoolers who don’t respect each other. Let me encouage you to prevent that situation through the following approach to carpool Etiquette;  

Bono Holds the Door (flickr credit: dpnash)

Bono Holds the Door (flickr credit: dpnash)

Clearly outline your carpool’s rules

It is only fair.  Otherwise one person’s high standards and another’s low standards could be in conflict even though nobody is actually intending disrespect or breaking a rule.  By letting everyone in the carpool know about the expected standard of behaviour, everyone can be absolutely crystal clear when they are not respecting the group.  Writing things down tends to make things much more clear than just chatting about them in the carpool lane at 110km/h.  Since carpooling is optional, a member of the carpool who doesn’t want to abide by the rules can either negotiate, or find a carpool with more lax rules.

Abide by and enforce your carpool’s rules

The strongest teacher is example.  If you are always “running a couple minutes late”, you shouldn’t be surprised if the others in your carpool also “run a couple minutes late”.  If you can’t follow the rules, then don’t have them.  Rules are actually there to be followed.  On the other side of the equation, if there is no consequence for not following the rules, or the group is so fearful to point out infractions, then you might as well not have rules at all.  If the carpool feels free to point out violations, it sends a clear message that disrespect is not accepted by the group.

Carpool Etiquette – Rules you might choose for your carpool

So what rules should you have for your carpool?  maybe your carpool is composed of like minded individuals who share the same values, or perhaps there is a real diversity of backgrounds, and what means respect to one person is completely optional to another.  I’ve been hunting online for a list of carpool rules and drawing from my own experience to give you the following selection of rules to strengthen your carpool and improve everyone’s experience.

  • Be prompt.  Perhaps you think 5 minutes is nothing, but when it happens twice a day and 3 other people are waiting you just wasted 30 minutes of other people’s time.  In our carpool, we wait up to 5 minutes then we leave. Leaving work on time after work is as important as being on time in the morning.  That providential meeting in the hallway at the end of the day needs to end before carpool is scheduled to leave.  If carpool leaves at 7:30, then 7:32 may be fine for everybody getting settled and buckled in, but 7:39 is clearly not “on-time”.
  • Don’t run errands when you are driving the carpool.  This includes not stopping at the gas station.  Always have your car full of gas so you don’t make your carpool sit at the gas-station while you fill up.  The point of carpool is getting to and from work effectively.
  • Safety first. Everyone should feel safe, so the whole carpool adjusts towards the driving style of the safest driver (not the most hesitant driver).
  • Avoid strong fragrances; perfume, hairspray, scented hand lotions all have fragrances which the others who are enclosed in the air-tight vehicle may not choose.
  • If your work requires you to sweat or otherwise get dirty, respect your carpool by covering their seats with towels to protect the vehicle.
  • The car should be reasonably clean and odour free in preparation for the carpool.  Clean seats give your fellow carpoolers confidence when they sit down in their best business clothes for the commute.
  • Be sensitive with the choice of music.  No music is easier to manage.
  • Life happens.  Call if there is a problem.  Communicate early! Lots of warning lets people plan. Remember they are counting on you. So have everyone’s contact information.  Yes you can phone my house at 6AM if there is a problem.  Getting to work is important enough for my phone to ring.
  • Let the driver drive.  His job is to keep everyone safe in traffic by paying attention and using his judgement.  Backseatdrivers need not apply. (imaginary brake pedals for the passenger are fine, call it a reflex).
  • Set food rules;  Is coffee or food allowed in the car? (each car may have different rules).
  • Don’t have long cell phone conversations while you’re in the carpool.  It says something if you are ignoring the person beside you while having an enthusiastic conversation with someone who is not present.  Short calls to check in at home, leave reminders and take care of telephone errands are usually acceptable. (remember your audience includes those present).
  • Avoid discussing controversial topics like religion or politics unless you know your fellow carpoolers well. While some people enjoy debating the issues, others may prefer a quieter commute.  Depending on the enthusiasm of co-workers in your carpool, you may want other rules to limit the amount of “work” conversation that occurs en-route.

Carpooling is about relating with others.

Rules are useful and necessary for bringing order and predictability to your carpool, but be sure to employ them with flexibility for maximum impact.  

  • Think in terms of equity, fairness and putting yourself in the other person’s shoes.  
  • Discuss carpool costs together. If members agree to rotate the driving equally, then money doesn’t have to change hands. But if only one person drives the carpool, passengers generally chip in to cover the costs of gas and parking.
  • Compromise where you can – They want to leave at the crack of dawn, you want to leave 30 minutes later.  Try leaving at 15 minutes after the crack of dawn. 
  • Realize that not everyone in a carpool has the same degree of flexibility.  While some members may be leaving a “spare” $23,000 SUV in their driveway, others may be single car families with much less flexibility since the rest of their family may have plans for the car when it is not driving the carpool. 
  • Keeping money out of the equation may move you from a transactional carpool which is interested in the exact dollars and cents owed towards a relational carpool where you focus on giving and receiving a benefit.
  • Consider seating arrangements.  Those needing more space or prone to car-sickness up front, and the most compatible or compact folks in the back seat where there is less room.

It is my hope that the tips I’ve shared above make your life and your carpool better.  If you have tips or carpool experiences to share, hit the comments below.  Thanks! Greg.



8 Suggestions for Starting to Carpool Successfully

So you are interested in the idea of carpooling but you aren’t sure it will work for you.  Don’t worry, you aren’t alone.  Most carpoolers have stood in your shoes and wondered about the benefits and costs of carpooling.  With some encouragement and a little experimentation you can make carpooling work for you.  The following tips are born of my experiences and are provided to help you increase the success of your first foray into carpooling.

carpool lane (flickr credit: Richard Drdul)

carpool lane (flickr credit: Richard Drdul)

1. First of all, take “Baby steps” and “try before you buy”.  Rather than committing to carpool full-time right away, test-drive the idea of carpooling.  With some of the friends from my office, we started with carpooling a couple days a week.  This meant that 3/5 of the days were business as usual, but 2/5 were trying out carpooling.   Even if you only end up carpooling a couple days a week, you realize many of the carpooling benefits which might include; saving money, less stressful driving, carpool lanes, less wear and tear on your vehicle.  Pick a duration for your carpool trial and re-evaluate at the end of that time.  Say; “Well, I’m just not sure how I will feel about not having my own space on the commute, but I’d like to give this a try to see how well I do with this.  For the next month, lets carpool on Mondays and Tuesdays, and evaluate at the end of the month.” Did you notice how the language was around your own experience, and not around the other person’s driving or conversational skills?  This way you can easily say “No” without anyone feeling judged.

2. Pick good people, set yourself up for success.  Try carpooling with people you know.  Sharing a common office environment and of course knowing the people increases the safety of the situation.  You might find it harder (and probably should) to drive off with a stranger in their car. Sharing an office also improves the chances that you share common working hours and will have very little conflict regarding when the carpool arrives and leaves.  Choose people you are comfortable with, people you can get along with who you won’t mind having in your commuting space.  Good people make all the difference in the world.

3. Schedule driving days in advance.  Unless it is Christmas, nobody likes surprises.  If the people in your carpool are forewarned about which day they are driving, they can; have gas in the car, have the car clean, and not promise the car to their wife that day.  Having members of the carpool drive on certain days, (I always drive on Mondays) gives a rhythm and predictability to the carpool routine that reduces stress. Naturally you will want to keep things fair so on some days there will be variation in who drives. (Wednesdays could be Greg, Jen or Mo) That variation should be predictable too, so break out your favourite spreadsheet tool and build a schedule (to keep at your desk, on the visor of your car, and on the back of your door at home) so everyone can avoid being “surprised” when it is their day to drive.

4. Clearly agree on how the carpool will work.  Will it be like a carpool bus-route, where the driver goes to several houses to collect people in the morning and drop them off at night, which requires only one vehicle to be in motion on a given day.  This is the most car efficient, but depending on driving direction and distances, may not be the most time efficient.  Will your carpool meet centrally so everyone is responsible for getting “down the hill” to the rendezvous point?  This could mean adding a couple minutes of buffer to everyone’s schedule prior to rendezvous so they don’t keep anyone waiting.  Will your carpool meet at the house closest to destination with cars left on the street or in a driveway?  It means a lot less hassle for the person with the handy house, but uses more cars and may mean those furthest away may be commuting many more minutes a day just to make the carpool work.

5. Be flexible.  Life happens.  Communicate early! Lots of warning lets people plan. Remember they are counting on you, so if something comes up lead time is really valuable.  Chances are you are carpooling because of the benefits you will receive or because you recognize the opportunity to make a positive impact through how you commute.  Keep this in mind when your carpool has complications.  Refuse to be “high-maintenance”  Did someone miss a day because of medical appointments? Relax, adapt, next time you might be the one requiring grace.  The need to keep a running total of how EVEN everyone is may be a sign that your carpool is headed for trouble.  That being said, it must be fair and feel fair. 

6. Drive well.  You just found some people that were willing to trust you with their lives on the morning commute. Honour that trust by keeping everyone safe.  In fact strive to raise the safety of your driving to match the safest person in your carpool.  Nobody should be scared in the carpool, and if someone expresses their fear, say “Thank you” and take it as a compliment that they felt you would be open enough to receive constructive criticism. Drive “Silky smooth”. Richard in our carpool coined that term and we look forward to a “Silky Smooth” commute every time Richard drives.  This helps everyone feel comfortable, saves fuel and helps those prone to motion sickness to not feel seasick after the commute.

7. Bulk up your carpool for resilience.  If you have a 2 person carpool and 1 of the 2 people can’t make it, the carpool is dead for that day.  If you have a 3 person carpool and one person can’t make it, the carpool lives on.  3 and 4 person carpools are very resilient and able to continue on even if one person is sick for a week and another person has random work schedule changes…  You carpool when you can, and your carpool extends benefits to whoever can carpool on a given day.  Some days our carpool saves $10 in gas, other days it saves as much as $30 in gas.

8. Enjoy yourselves.  It’s about community and it’s much more than a business transaction.  If  you are social with carpool, after a short while you will find yourself  looking forward to the time you can spend with friends on the ride home.  Some of the tools to improve your carpool’s enjoyability include; agreed upon audio books, baking or coffee in the morning, carefully selected music, the odd DVD movie (back seat only), and the normal exuberant conversation that comes after a long day at work. You’ll have inside jokes and your own secret carpool language in no time… Well OK maybe just some inside jokes.

Carpooling is about achieving something together that you could not on your own.  With the 8 suggestions above you will greatly increase the chances that you can start carpooling successfully.  Then you get to enjoy the benefits that brings.

I hope that helps!  Leave your suggestions in the comments below so others can benefit from your experiences.

Greg.



Are Myths about Clean Energy Hindering Innovation?

I have been observing clean energy since 1999, and since then I’ve watched some pretty amazing advances, and some pretty pathetic progress.  Technology is making advances, but the practice and social aspects of change are not keeping pace.  I live in North America, and here we use more energy per person than anywhere else in the world, something like 5 times as much per person as other industrialized nations. We are wasteful, affluent and often appear to not care about the impact that our “lifestyles” have on others around the globe, and on the environment.  Looking to the future, it seems that this cannot continue forever, and that it would be better for us to change while we have the choice, rather than waiting until we are forced to make a drastic change.

 

Velaia (ParisPeking)

coal power plant Flickr Photo Credit: Velaia (ParisPeking)

 

Energy is required to manufacture, to transport, and even to consume what has been manufactured. Currently much of the energy we have is produced by large corporations in a polluting, unsustainable and inequitable fashion that by definition of corporation and free market, has as its primary goal “making corporations money” and as its secondary goal “maintaining the status quo of those making the money”.  Neither of those two goals will necessarily; Protect consumers from unfair profiteering, protect the natural environment, promote innovation, or allow for sustainable development of energy infrastructure.

 

kilobar

Clean energy from wind power, flickr photo credit: kilobar

 

I propose that we are stuck in this place because of some of our beliefs.  I don’t claim to have a complete picture, but I’d like to suggest that there are a number of myths that support the status quo and thereby hinder us from moving towards cleaner energy.  Lets debunk some myths that are commonly circulated:

Myth: There is a shortage of energy:

Actually every hour, the sun showers the earth with more energy than the world’s entire population consumes in a whole year. (source: Sesci.ca)

Myth: Clean energy will result in a loss of jobs.

Recently I heard a statistic that more Americans are employed by the US wind industry than the US coal industry.  I think we will see a shift in jobs.  New jobs might include designing, producing, selling and delivering parts for; solar cells, geothermal systems and heat exchangers, bio-gas facilities, wind turbines, hydro turbines, power storage and regulating equipment.  Research and development to improve the efficiency and quality of these systems. 

Myth: Clean energy costs too much money

From a consumer perspective, in British Columbia, the residential rate for electricity is 7.2 cents per KWH and 85% of our power comes from hydro dams.  In keeping with Moore’s law, solar cells are becoming about twice as efficient every year (as solar cell manufacturers purchase the technology no longer needed by the likes of Intel and AMD).  A Geothermal system installed at a cost of $10,000 when a house is built can provide heating AND cooling at about 1/4 of the cost of conventional methods.  So if $275 / month is normal, that means $825 in annual savings and a breakeven point of about 12 years.  (Those with better numbers are welcome to comment).  So likely a case by case comparison depending on what options are available and what energy costs are needs to be done.  Certainly some forms of cleaner energy production won’t be available in all locations.  When we start factoring in “health” and “social justice” (no blood for oil etc) it quickly becomes apparent that there are some costs not fairly represented on the balance sheet.

Myth: Clean energy is only for granola eating hippies or tin-hat wearing wackos

Since utilities buy and sell power using the infrastructure of electrical transmission lines, your power could be purchased from anywhere.  Without you knowing, your utility could purchase some power from a coal plant or a wind farm, and that clean energy would seamlessly appear in your house’s electrical system.  As stated earlier, in British Columbia, 85% of electricity used is from renewable (rainwater powered) hydro dams.  So clean energy is something any of us could be using, whether we enjoy granola or not.

Myth: Clean energy is experimental or in its infancy, not ready for serious commercial use

Despite the persistence of solar energy displays and fuel-cell displays at local science fairs, these technology are actually well developed.  Consider early designs of the steam engine which used “wet ropes” to ensure a seal for the piston.  We have much more advantage now.  In Denmark, the last time I checked, 20% of the nation’s electricity was being generated via wind turbines.  Denmark with it’s shallow coastal areas realized that 7km offshore, the wind farms have nothing blocking the breeze and they are essentially silent and invisible as far as humans are concerned. Solar found a boost near its inception with the space race of the 60s if I recall correctly, and so represents a technology that has received barely 50 years of serious development.  Perhaps solar finds itself in an awkward adolescence where we can see the potential, but we aren’t quite ready to turn over the reins.  Solar is a de-facto standard for remote installations like track side railway equipment in the Rockies, marine equipment marking channels, roadside traffic signs and solar calculators.  So it seems the technology is there, the adoption however is wanting.

Myth: Coal energy is cheap

Not really, you need coal mines, transportation infrastructure, generating plants or furnaces to burn the coal, lots of air land and water to receive the sooty pollution and CO2. There has been the human health cost of mining and breathing that dirty air.  An amazing amount of effort has been invested in coal energy, some of the excavators have buckets as big as a house. Leaving giant scars on the surface of the earth.  Since the mining of coal and burning of coal are centralized activities, this concentrates the energy in the hands of a few (those who own large coal generating plants), now there is the added cost of distribution, such a system puts a wealthy few in a place to set the price of electricity for the people who purchase it. Coal is a non-renewable resource, which means once it is used, there is no more coal to replace it.  Much like the dinosaurs who contributed to the coal, it will soon go extinct.

Myth: All energy needs to be generated using one method (All wind/ All hydro etc)

All or nothing thinking makes it very easy for a person to dismiss clean energy.  However, a diversity of generating methods allow for a lessened impact on the environment and resilience in the event of a shortage of any one kind of energy generation (a shortage of rain one year might reduce the power that can be generated using hydro dams, when the wind stops blowing wind turbines are idle, when there are no waves, wave generation produces no power, when it is nighttime, solar generation isn’t effective.

Myth: Energy production must be entirely clean.

While that is a worthy goal, it isn’t immediately attainable by most of North America.  The myth is an error in thinking, a false dichotomy that says a half way solution, or a marginal improvement is worthless.  This flies in the face of experience that teaches us that most real improvement is incremental and continuous.  In other fields marginal improvements are celebrated and embraced, like the medical discovery that consuming baby aspirin fights the chance of strokes and heart attacks occurring.  If we can even REDUCE our dependence on unsustainable dirty energy generation, we are moving in the right direction.  So lets not throw the baby out with the bathwater, when we see improvement.  Lets embrace any move in the right direction.  One encouraging tidbit I have to share is that according to the Danish Wind Association (sorry if I got the name wrong guys).  A wind turbine cancels out it’s own environmental impact (refining the steel, machining, transportation, installation, access roads etc. in 2 months of full-time operation.  2 months is a fantastic payback for erasing ones own tracks so to speak. 

Myth: Doing the right thing must provide higher profits than taking the lazy way out.  

Somehow many of us have adopted the moronic thinking that somehow doing the right thing should be cheaper.  We hear things like “Gee that wouldn’t pay for itself for 10 years, I’m not interested”, or “Gee that has a $10,000 initial capital cost” (as the guy signs a 30 year mortgage for the $500,000 house…) Sometimes doing the right thing will be as expensive or more expensive than doing the thing that will potentially poison the air. 

Myth: Higher efficiency stoves/ furnaces / etc will allow us to be responsible while still using carbon based energy

While it’s true (and commendable) that efficiency for gas furnaces and other items are improving, this is really little more than damage control. (putting the filter on the cigarette and claiming it’s healthier to smoke).  Carbon based fuels are not renewable, meaning we can’t sustain their consumption.  Carbon based fuels release CO2, CO and other pollutants into the air we breathe, risking our health.  It is telling (and not commonly understood) that many furnaces burning “natural gas” may expel 20-30% of their heat energy up the chimney where it does not benefit the homeowner.  “Higher efficiency” generally means cleaner more complete combustion so you are wasting less energy.  We need to move away from dirty unhealthy unsustainable methods and start seeding the clean sustainable technologies that will outlast carbon.  (Anybody know how much longer the Sun is expected to last?)

Myth: North America is innovative in energy production.

If Green-wash were a clean energy innovation, this would be true.  It would seem that GM killed the (EV1) electric car despite people offering to buy out their leases.  Many subdivisions in attractive neighbourhoods have covenants on the properties preventing people from putting up clothes lines or solar installations on their roofs because they are “unsightly”.  North Americans consume more energy, more products and more packaging than anyone else in the industrialized world.  Most jurisdictions in North America have been very slow to permit/encourage net-metering and other progressive measures which would encourage de-centralized independent power production.  North America keeps proposing “carbon offset credits” and other measures which essentially permit some fancy accounting and transfer of money without fundamentally addressing how the power is created. (Essentially it is purchasing the “right” to pollute by putting money in the pockets of folks who are doing the right thing.)  Did you catch how the goal isn’t to improve, its to “offset”?  North America has incredibly skilled labour, good working conditions, lots of money and…. we are not showing anywhere near the leadership that is required to turn energy production around and get it pointed in the right direction.

Myth: If I can’t buy it at Walmart it isn’t really “available” (yes I heard this one)

Somewhere along the line we lost our spirit of invention, our willingness to risk, research and investigate.  Anyone reading this, has the most powerful research tool (Google?) and the most powerful shopping network. (Ebay?) at their fingertips.  Don’t wait for Walmart to stock the $10 home fusion generators.  Take some initiative and be the first on your block! 🙂 

I hope…

that if we could clear the air by addressing more of these myths, by getting the green-wash out of the room, by recognizing how bad the situation is, by encouraging government that would promote innovation that ordinary citizens could participate in.  That we would see noticable progress.  (Note: this is not the same as us sitting around watching our big TVs, waiting for government to “fix it”.)  Then we could find ourselves in the environment that nurtured the Renaissance of clean energy.  Lets hope!  Actually, join me and lets get out there and start making a difference.  Anyone want to start an “at cost solar system/ geothermal system” mail-order charity?” 🙂

Are there some other myths you’ve been observing?  Add them in the comments.

Greg.



The Green Tree
January 5, 2009, 1:24 am
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Since 2002 I’ve been running this micro ISV (independent software vendor) and I’ve really enjoyed working with some great customers over the years.  In the current season, I’m taking stock of my life and auditing where I spend my time.  My small children and my wife deserve the bulk of my non-working hours, and that has never been up for debate.  Children however grow up and become more social and require more direct attention.  I’m making sure my kids get that from me, and adjusting the way that I work with GreenTree to accomodate that. 

One way that I have been attempting to honour my customers for the last 6 years is by filling in the gaps myself.  Where a customer has requested A and B, but really those don’t make sense without C, I’ve built C for them at no cost.  Where a customer has asked for a feature that requires massive re-working, I’ve shared the cost of that re-working with them.  So while they have seen some of the costs of customizing software, they have not had seen the whole cost.  I however had seen that hidden cost, often working unseen late into the evenings only to get up early the next morning for work.   So I’ve attempted recently to restore balance and cut out the overwork.

In order for my family or my business to be healthy, I must be healthy.  A tree providing shade to animals, soil retention to the land, and purification for the air, must be thriving.   I see that now, and I’m ready for this next season of re-focussing and prioritizing, of Auditing my life.  I am the green tree.

Greg.



Eradicating AIDS within your lifetime.
AIDS is in the news because of the international Aids conference.
AIDS is no longer only the domain of homosexual males who have been the dominant group affected by this horrible disease. Anyone who has sex with more than one person, or who has sex with a person who has sex with more than one person is at risk. Anyone who uses contaminated needles to inject drugs into their veins is at risk.

 

Prevention:

There is much talk of microbicides, of condoms (raise your hand if you are thoroughly tired of hearing about condoms), of male circumcision, of antivirual drugs but there is one weapon in the war against AIDS that you will not hear mentioned.

“Self Control”

I know…  It sounds totally foreign to the discussion of AIDS doesn’t it?

I’ve heard it said, “We like our freedom, don’t tell me how to live my life, don’t be so judgemental, how can you be so condemning, have compassion for people with AIDS, don’t tell them they are at fault, this isn’t about blame, this is about love.” Or you can imagine dozens of other replies. But the fact is there is a huge “blind spot” when it comes to solving this AIDS crisis. Promiscuous behaviour spreads AIDS. If a man or woman has sex with more than one other person (lets drop the crap about calling every person that has sex a “partner”) they could potentially be transmitting or receiving AIDS (condoms break, no microbicide is 100% effective etc). If a man or woman rapes a person, they could potentially be transmitting or receiving AIDS. If a man or woman uses illegal intravenous drugs they could potentially be transmitting or receiving AIDS.

If we really wanted to stop AIDS, we could, by committing ourselves to;

  • Having only 1 lifelong sexual relationship, and encouraging those around us to do the same
  • Avoiding injection of illegal drugs, and working to help addicts detox, rather than supporting their addition through our ignorance.

Naturally there are exceptions, health care workers who are exposed to blood, infants who contract AIDS from their mothers but we are told again and again that these instances are exceptions, not the predominant cause of the spread of AIDS.

In North America there is very little lack of AIDS education in schools, from doctors, from TV, from books, from the Internet. We do however lack in many ways the morality that this North America had only a short while ago. To put it bluntly, we are consciously spreading AIDS because we care more about our “freedom” than we care about stopping this horrible disease. To put it more bluntly, there are people who would rather risk another’s life, than exercise self control.

Our government and our society and our health care providers are not a moral authority, so we can’t expect them to do this work. As evidenced by 2 decades of condom promotion and largely ineffective education, they have not solved the problem. Instead they seem determined to spend millions to develop treatments to treat the symptoms, while allowing the root causes to remain. (promiscuous sex and a cycle of chemical addiction, both of which ruin lives in more ways than AIDS). Whether you are a person of faith (and therefore adhering to a unambiguous moral code), or not, you have a responsibility not to kill other people or through your actions allow other people to be killed.

One bright light. This is the only bright light I see in the current AIDS crisis, so watch carefully. In Uganda there are people testifying that they are being healed of AIDS by the power of Jesus Christ.  From the reports I have seen, hundreds and hundreds of people can present the medical certificates showing they were HIV positive and now showing that there is no evidence of the virus in their bodies.  I’m not an HIV expert, but this sounds really really hopeful!

For the rest of us, and some who may not want to ask God to heal their AIDS in the context of Christian community, I suggest this pledge:

  • I will engage in sexual relations with only one lifetime partner.
  • If I have HIV AIDS and understand that there is the chance of having a baby who would be HIV infected, I will not have a baby, because I will stop having sex so I don’t cause the needless death of a baby.
  • I will not use intravenous drugs that are not administered under the supervision of a doctor.
  • If I am HIV positive I will tell my partner and will stop having sex so that I don’t cause their death.
  • If there is any chance that I have contracted AIDS (I have had sex with more than one person, or a person who is not a virgin / I have taken drugs intravenously without a doctor’s supervision) I will take an HIV/AIDS test to confirm if I carry the virus.
  • If I am HIV positive I will tell my doctor and will cancel any organ-donation agreement I have established, so that my doctor is informed of the risk and a person receiving my organs will not needlessly die.
  • If I am HIV positive I will refuse to donate blood to protect whoever might be receiving my blood.

Sex is such a tiny part of life, why would you allow your desire for it to kill someone. Isn’t thathatred in the extreme, to consider your need for pleasure so much higher than another’s need to live? Love is when you sacrifice something of yourself for someone else so that they can benefit.

Show love, Stop AIDS, Have the guts to say no to all promiscuous sex.

If you are still reading, then perhaps there is hope that you haven’t found these ideas totally offensive. I offer one more idea which carrys the weight of most of the world’s moral codes. 1 man, 1 woman, 1 marriage for life, 0 compromise. In addition to protecting against AIDS, it brings many advantages including relational stability, someone you can always trust, the opportunity for intimacy (I don’t mean sex), good support for raising healthy well balanced children, protection, nurture and more. Canadian society has been throwing out the idea of the traditional family since the 1960s and we are increasingly paying the price in our society. Every major faith in the world espouses what I know as a biblical model of marriage and family. There is protection in this God ordained model that we forego when we choose to live a different way.

Note: Have compassion for the people who have AIDS, don’t have any compassion at all for the behaviour that spreads AIDS. Separate the two. Love the people, hate the behaviour that hurts so many. Now, go and be the change you want to see.

Thanks for helping me change the world.